11 good practices that parents who do not spoil their children use
Behave like them if you want to help your children
They express their Love for their children.
It is important to express your emotions, not to be afraid to express your love for the children. Expressing your love is the most important tool you have in your hands if you want to help your children to develop their personality, to have self efficacy, self confidence, creativity, flexibility and the ability to be effective according to their needs in all their acts.
They play with their children
When you become a parent you forget to play, you think that you have to be very serious in order to raise the kid. The Vice versa is the truth parents who are making effective children and do not spoil them remain playful. They can be the children who is playing and play with their children. It is very important to be able to play with your children because play has all the elements that your child needs to be developed. It’s the magic recipe that children should learn.
They put limits
Another good practice is that they can put the limits and they are not afraid to put them. Because they know their children need this basic security. Through limits children are going to create the perception of the space and the time. This way they can understand the time and the space and that they are protected and loved.
They have a routine
Routine is another basic frame that parents who facilitate effective and not spoiled children are using. Through routines children are creating the basic concept of time and shape their internal understanding of time and they become responsible.
They accept imagination
They accept imagination because they know that this can make their children to be able to live in a world that nothing is stable. Actually they give their children the freedom to break the limits. They are creating an environment where limits and freedom are in ballance. They create responsible, effective, creative children.
They are cooking with their children
They cook with their children and create moments of communication. They can help the child to develop his senses through which is communicating and understanding the world.
They give hugs
Parents who do not spoil their children give a lot a lot of hugs because they know when they are keeping their children in their arms they’re giving them a small piece of the earth. How is it happening? Because when you hug you are making every piece of the body to be re-energized. But through this the cells of the body of the the child is coming in connection and can develop the perception of the space which is around it. If a parent is giving a hug to a child is facilitating the ability to be present.
They are responsive and flexible
So they can understand their children because they have a good communication with them. This way they can be responsive and flexible.
They listen to their children stories -narrations
They listen to the stories of their children because they know that it’s story is a piece of himself which has to be grounded. They know every story is a piece of a self which has to be recognized, to be loved, accepted and incorporated in the whole body.
They give give give a piece of their time
They give give give give a lot of time for the children in their daily program in order to create a good quality of communication with their children. Giving time is not meaning to give your whole day off 24/7 to the child, it means that you spend 10 minutes or a quarter of the hour but in real good quality time, where you are present for your child and you listen to it and play with it.
Accept their children as a whole
Accept their children as a whole. They accept the drawings, the stories accept the behavior because they know that every behavior is a sign from a different internal state. So they know that they have to look deep in this behavior and try to find the reasons and the emotions behind it.
Write in the comments area your best practices. Or try one of the above and write the results.